Wow, it is June 2nd but you surely wouldn’t know it by the weather here in Oakland, California. Cloudy, rainy and cold making it feel more like January than June!
WhiIe going through my on-line groups the other day I came across these 5 common regrets from patients who were nearing the end of their life. This is a great reminder to all of us to live life fully NOW! We don’t want to have any regrets when our time comes.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
Many regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence missining out on their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Thanks to Bronnie Ware for these words of wisdom from some of her patients.